Babies- they are the whole world to parents. They create a new experience unlike any other. When you become a parent, you turn into a different person. A lot of things are learned and you tend to mature. You think first of your child’s welfare before your own and you become more patient. You also discover to love and appreciate the little things in life.
Being a parent is both a gift and a sacrifice. You become a better person when you become a parent.
However, having a family is not all about kids. There are other facets that also need attention. The aspect of family life most neglected is the romance between the husband and wife. Oftentimes, the focus becomes limited to the children. This is good for the well-being of the children but becomes detrimental in the long run. When there is no more time shared by the parents as partners, they tend to become strangers to each other. They lose the spark that brought them together in the first place. This leads to more problems, especially when the kids are already old enough to require constant attention, when they realize that they no longer see each other as romantically attached.
To avoid this from happening, the following may be a useful guide:
- Always have time to talk and listen to each other. When your children are still young, they constantly need care and attention. This creates a scenario wherein all your energy is focused towards the kids. Overtime, you may not know that it has already been a long while since you had a conversation and there had already been a lot of undiscussed matters. This is dangerous in a relationship. Constant communication is necessary to understand what your partner is going through and prevent drifting apart to a point of no return.
- Do not let your partner know your plans. It is the danger of having kids, everything becomes planned. To prevent your relationship from becoming routinary, you need to have surprises. Give her flowers even when there is no occasion or give her gifts that are out of the box. Anything that surprises your partner gives excitement that brings emotions reminiscent of the time when you were still sweet lovers and there were still no kids.
- Go out together. Every now and then, parents should go out and enjoy themselves without having to worry about the kids. This can be as simple as a night out or as grand as an out of town vacation. It will all depend on your budget and desire to go out. Take the time out as an opportunity to talk about the two of you and your relationship. As much as possible, leave the topic on your kids out of the picture. The time should be for you as lovers and not as parents. Having a break from being parents is a must to avoid the tragedy of losing the romance between the two of you. After all, when your kids leave the house, there will be no one else left but the two of you. Keep the flame burning so that you will still enjoy being with each other even at an old age.